Last week, I got my second tattoo.
Love ’em or hate ’em, the coolest thing about a tattoo (to me) is that whoever dawns them gives zero f*cks about whether you like them or not.
Clearly, they’re significant. Clearly, they serve an internal purpose. Clearly, they have meaning and importance.
(Otherwise, why would you ever spend money on something that literally HURTS SO MUCH for an extended period of time!? Exactly.)
I can tell you one thing for certain: when I was planning out my tattoos, I spent exactly 0% of my energy worrying about what anybody else thought of them. That’s an exact number. ZERO PERCENT. I didn’t realize this until afterwards, of course, but it’s still awesome.
I was so sure about what I wanted; had so much clarity about the design, the meaning, the reason why I wanted them in the first place – that I didn’t even think for a second about what anybody else might think.
They are for me. Only me. It’s my body. It’s my decision. And if somebody has an opinion, doesn’t like the size, font, colour… I absolutely do not care. At all. I’d venture a guess that if you also have one or more tattoos, you share this perspective.
(I’m really working on having this kind of attitude in other areas of my life!)
One more thing.
Have you ever been inside a tattoo shop?
If there were ever a place that personifies the very essence of not giving a f*ck about what anybody else thinks, it’s a tattoo shop.
I’ve been in a few, and I can tell you… if you just walked in off the street, vaguely contemplating getting even just a little one, there are many places that could deter the faint of heart about their decision to get a tattoo, and make them turn around and walk right out the door.
But a tattoo shop is catering to ONE group. People who want tattoos.
They don’t care if you think their store is dark, dingy, small, bright, loud, disorganized, upbeat, friendly, cheeky, or anything else.
If you want to get a tattoo, you’re going to get one. Decision made. Period. You make an appointment, you bring your idea, you show up, and you get the show on the road.
People who come in to get a tattoo are 200% sure they want one, the EXACT one they get, because it’s permanent.
Ain’t no tattoo artists hanging out on the street, prospecting for more clients.
Ain’t no tattoo shop worried about what the f*ck you think about what their store looks like. Or if you like the music they’re playing.
So, my dear friends, I am going to challenge you to start acting like a tattoo shop. Every day. I’m working on taking my own advice.
Own the space you’re in. Be clear and firm with your opinions and don’t sell out based on the person/people you’re around.
Be your authentic self, and quit giving your valuable f*cks away by worrying about what somebody else might think of your hair, makeup, clothes, car, job, friends, pets, home decor, body, piercings or tattoos. Those things are YOUR decision. Stand by them. Be proud of them.
(And anyway, I can guarantee you, there are WAY less people paying attention to your choices than you think.)
So just do you.
P.S. This post was heavily inspired by The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving A F*ck by the fabulous Sarah Knight. This book is truly (as it blatantly suggests) life-changing, and I couldn’t recommend it more. Everybody needs to read this book. Its cute and small, its a quick read, and it’s actually LOL hilarious. Please check it out and buy a copy. It will become your new way of life, I promise. And so it should. There’s also a sequel called “Get Your Sh*t Together” that is equally as entertaining and relevant, should you be interested in.