The world we live in is so interesting.
As I’ve been learning more and more about confidence, there’s one thing I’ve been noticing that I just can’t seem to shake.
While on vacation recently, I vividly recall walking onto the pool deck and seeing a bad-ass looking woman, who may have qualified as being “overweight” by the media standards, wearing a two piece bikini and just rocking it like nobody’s business. And my first thought was “You go girl! Good for you, being confident and bad-ass in your bikini! You’re awesome!”
And while that’s a nice, supportive thought, why is that what crossed my mind first?
Why is it “good for her” to be rocking her bikini, like it’s an accomplishment, with some type of assumption that she “shouldn’t” be in a bikini, but she’s awesome because she IS wearing one? As if they’re reserved for only people with perfect, skinny bodies?
Society is seriously F*CKED.
Everybody is entitled to wear a bikini.
Everybody is entitled to wear whatever the f*ck they want to wear.
Everybody is entitled to confidence.
I can’t be the only one who seems happy and excited when people who might not fit the “standard” of beauty are openly confident. But, that’s completely whack. There’s no reason anybody should be surprised when an overweight woman is saying silently “f*ck yeah, I’m wearing this” as she walks out onto the pool deck in her bikini. Everybody is entitled to wear whatever they want to wear. Every BODY is entitled to do whatever they f*cking want.
Because the fact of the matter is, confidence is not reserved for only skinny, pretty, perfect people. Yeah, those people are naturally confident. But confidence, my friends, does not appear only when you fit into society’s standards. Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear.
And it’s more about your mind than it is about your body.
I’m assuming most people are reading this are women. That’s probably 99% accurate. So I’m going to make a generalization, without a male input. (If you’re a man, and you’ve made it this far, you can feel free to call me on my sh*t.)
Ladies, do you think a guy gives a crap if you’re 20, 30, 40 pounds over your “goal” weight?
They don’t. They just want you to be confident in yourself. (And they want to… you know.)
They do not care if you don’t look like <GORGEOUS MODEL/ACTRESS NAME HERE>. They care that you are confident, and strut your stuff like it’s nobody’s business.
Confidence is available to everybody. There’s no limited supply, there’s no prerequisite. It’s available.
You just have to OWN IT.
Can you do that?
It’ll take some work. It’ll take some mindset training. But it’s attainable.
Confidence is not reserved for the skinny, pretty people. It’s reserved for YOU.
You just have to own it.
What are you waiting for?